You wake up, you take a shower, you dress up and have breakfast and then you go to work, knowing that a hard day is waiting for you.
Knowing that some unpleasant tasks need to be done. Knowing that you will have a dreadful meeting. Knowing that a difficult conversation can't be avoided. Knowing that you will experience stress, anger and maybe some kind of defeat.
You talk to youself, in your head, and in an inner monologue you repeat again and again, silently and yet really loud: "Today is going to be a hard day!" or anything like that.
I know for sure that I sometimes had some of those days in the past and I wasn't happy nor relaxed while going to work then. I already was defensive and anxious when walking through the door and those days were really exhausting.
[A little bit like Nostradamus...
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In such situations the experts talk about self-fulfilling prophecy: if you think that you are going to have a difficult day, you can be sure that you will have it.
Without knowing it, you will unconsciously sabotage your day. By being nervous, worried or "hopeless" you will react in the wrong way, overreact to situations or just mess up.
Self-fulfilling prophecy indeed is a very powerful tool. And it can not only be used in a negative way, as most people do, but also in a very positive way.
What about telling yourself during those days: "Today is going to be a long day and I will enjoy it! I will make it!"?
What about going to work believing that you can achieve what you want? Believing that you will not only survive the day, but also add some value to it? Believing that you can face the consequences of each situation, meeting, problem and behavior, and still having confidence in yourself and in your skills?
Just give it a try.
And let me know in the comments how it feels, going to work during one of those days smiling and looking great.
Tags: Self-fulfilling prophecy, Positive thinking, Sabotage